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Hi Maya, very good question 😉
The answer depends on how you feel when you defend/try to prove yourself compared to deciding to walk away.
I also used to feel the need to defend, but it never felt good. You feel it deep inside, deep down you know that you should not have to prove yourself to anyone, right?
Also like you said, it can end up in an argument because the other person also feels like defending their point of view, and it just keeps going.
My advice to you as always is to go with whatever feels better to you at the time, depending on the subject, how you are feeling at the time, the situation etc
I personally don’t have the desire to explain myself to anyone any more and i try to avoid it as much as possible. But my confidence has also increased so im not as concerned about their point of view.
The higher your confidence and self esteem, the less time you give to anyones opinion of you. And you also know that you have done the right thing anyway, so whether this person knows it or not, it doesn’t matter right? i believe as long as you do the right thing and know it in your heart, you don’t need to explain yourself 🙂
What do you think?
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Your question is quite common actually, as people who are starting to learn that their thoughts create their reality wonder what thoughts lead to a illness. What ive explained in both my book The Alchemy of Healing and also in various posts such as How to heal your body is that its much more effective for you to raise your level of happiness in order to heal, instead of looking for thoughts that lead to the illness.
Its too difficult to go back in time and analyse millions of thoughts that could have been responsible for your illness. You will heal a lot quicker if you just focus on getting happier today, as your body knows how to self-heal, but can only self-heal if you are in a good emotional state.
Your body is telling you it is suffering in your negative emotional state, our bodies break down when we are not well emotionally
I hope this clarifies, have a read through my website and let me know any questions you may still have 🙂
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Good for you Valerie, once you take control of your health, everything else is within reach!
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Hello Farhan, thank you and I’m so pleased my book is helping you!
That’s reasonable at the start I think as you are starting to take steps in the direction of more allowing and less resistance. To me it sounds like you have a lot of resistance to the work so “deciding” to do it only makes you feel worse. If the work is necessary and you must do it, then you need to find a way of changing the way you feel about it. For example your family can’t starve because you don’t want to cook, so it’s important to change how you are perceiving the “work”.
I usually try and find a positive aspect to the work, to make it easier for me to start. Or when the task is so large or complicated it’s overwhelming me, I break it down into smaller more digestible sub-tasks because it feels good to at least finish one task, however small it is. You still feel like you’re making progress in the right direction.
Just remember to be easy about it and kind to yourself. I used to force myself to study, work, spend time with people I didn’t like and it was crippling me.
These days, even when I decide to do something from a place of excitement and passion, I may not have the feeling or momentum to continue it the next week. In my case it’s usually from physical exhaustion, if I don’t sleep well or rest, I lose all excitement about my life. So I quickly make sure I address this by taking time out, cutting technology out and just resting my mind or body. You need to work out what your triggers are.
Re downhill decisions, it’s 100% possible if you pay attention to how you feel. You feel better about downhill decisions, so try to feel each decision and see which feels better to follow. Then go in that direction. You will be surprised to find that later you might actually be excited about decisions you’ve previously made, and didn’t follow through with.
Best of luck!
Yes I believe you can and will heal the pain, it’s interesting when you mentioned the pain as I was in a very similar situation around the same age as you. If I can heal my body, then you can too! You’ll find I tried a lot of different avenues which is why the book was written, to help others such as yourself.
Let me know how you go!
Go where you are pulled
Thanks for your feedback!