Love List: A nice way to change your focus

by farnaz


image of the love list notebook of author farnaz afshar

Throughout my book, the focus has been on helping readers reach a better feeling place, so that their lives become better. The Law of Attraction (LOA) prevents anything around you changing until you change first, because your world is a reflection of your thoughts and emotions. And the change must be sustained a while before real physical change around you becomes apparent.

I have a number of exercises in the book which help you change your focus and hence emotions. One such exercise is the Love List. It seems simplistic at first, but those i’ve coached with it have found it not just enjoyable but a easy way to move towards what they want. Here is the extract from ‘The Alchemy of Healing’ explaining the Love List exercise:

“Get a notebook you love and write the numbers 1 to 10 down a page. Make sure you love this notebook, search a few days if you must to find something that is special to you. Next to each number, list anything that you love right now about your life. It could be your puppy, your partner, your salary, the novel you just started reading. It doesn’t matter what you list, as long as you feel some appreciation for it. Then throughout your day look out for things to take home and add to your love list.  Nothing is too small to be listed here. Try and fill in a page per day, and within a few weeks you will have listed hundreds of things that evoked appreciation within you. The purpose of this practice is to get you into the habit of looking for lovely things. Not only do you feel better when your focus is on good feeling thoughts, but you will begin to see more good coming into your life.”

What is it that you love in this moment? is it the sun rise? the coffee in your hand? the nice person that gave you their seat on the bus?

For me it might be the smile of a toddler or the way the wind blows my hair as I walk to work.

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Jennifer April 20, 2014 - 1:11 am

Interesting how powerful the law of attraction is. Healing my health issues is something I’ve been working on for some time now, and I’ve only recently learned how powerful your thoughts and emotions are.
I’ll be doing this Love List exercise for sure. It’s always good to get out of your head, so to speak, and think about all those things you never really think about. (that are good!) Right at this moment… I love seeing the birds playing, chirping and hopping around on my patio!

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farnaz June 17, 2014 - 4:34 am

Jennifer, it sounds like you are off to a good start! Keep up the appreciation…

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vineet August 1, 2016 - 4:15 am

i wanted to buy [email protected] but system does not allow.
Why doesit need useless info like shipping address to give pdf files

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farnaz August 1, 2016 - 11:55 am

Hello Vineet,
I don’t know why they are asking you for address details, it sounds silly I agree.
Rest assured I never see any details from customers, that website belongs to the publisher Balboa. This was on the Balboa website correct?
Unfortunately I do not have any control over the questions Balboa ask you, or I would make it easier!

Thanks for buying my book! I hope it changes your life in a positive way 🙂

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